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Your Eulogy

Your Eulogy

by | Apr 12, 2022 | My Life

Your Eulogy

 

Have you ever considered what your loved ones will say about you to celebrate your life after you have gone?

Although this blog is based on a confronting and morbid topic, I intend for it to be inspirational, so bear with me.

Let’s try a quick exercise. Write out your eulogy, even if it is in bullet point form. Ask yourself the following questions, and if you want an honest depiction of what your eulogy may look like ask the same questions to some close friends and family members.

  • What are the traits people love and will miss about you?
  • What are the values you are best known for?
  • What are your achievement and or impacts? Both personally and professionally.
  • What are your passions in life?
  • What are the fondest memories you have made with your loved ones/ what are theirs of you?
  • How did you make people feel?
  • Who loves you and why?
  • Who dislikes you and why?
  • What is your legacy?

Are you happy with the way your life will be highlighted? Or more to the point… Is there anything else you would want people to say about you? What else do you need to achieve and what changes do you need to make to be that person?

What passion in your life makes you the happiest? The thing you would do for free… It doesn’t have to be related to your career, it could be your family, or another hobby you love. Let this passion shine for you and for everyone to see!

The next step is to plan the actionable steps to be the person you want everyone to remember.

What life achievement are you currently most proud of? List the further achievements that you would like to accomplish. Use your imagination, think about:

  • The places you would like to go
  • The things you would like to learn
  • The memories you want to create with certain people
  • The personal characteristics do you want to shine
  • The things you want to achieve in your career
  • The things that will make you an inspiration to your loved ones
  • The legacy you wish to leave behind or the impact you wish to have

Write these down and keep a copy for yourself… This is your new bucket list. Give a second copy to a close family member, when the time comes, they will be able to check these things off and use them to write your eulogy.

Break down each goal on your bucket list into actionable steps. If you want to climb Mount Everest you don’t need to jump on a plane today, but you can start saving and you can start training so in time you will be in the right financial and physical state to succeed in this dream.

Don’t let your fears or insecurities stop you being the person you want to become. Don’t wait around for the perfect time or the perfect opportunity to arise, if you keep putting it off, you will never succeed. We don’t know how much time we have left so seize each day like it is your last. This means using your time wisely and limiting unproductive activities such as screen time. Use that extra time to work towards living the inspiring life you want for yourself. Don’t waste a single day, even one step in the right direction is progress.

Remember this short journey called life is meant to be enjoyed. Take it as seriously as you choose but don’t forget to take the time to create wonderful memories with your loved ones that will survive in their thoughts after you have left this earth.

Love Life Love YOUR Life

Ferne Eliz King

About Ferne

Ferne is globally recognised and called upon for quickly accelerating complex change to achieve business strategies.  Translating strategies to actionable plans, prioritisation of those actions, engagement from the right people, bringing business architecture to life or your life plan if individual and in many cases driving the change as a program director.  The bottom line is Ferne accelerates businesses or individuals to achieve outcomes and enabling that is her passion.

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“If you do the same thing today as yesterday, your tomorrow will be the same as today”.  Ferne Eliz King

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Taking Your Thoughts and Making a Difference

Taking Your Thoughts and Making a Difference

by | Apr 12, 2022 | My Life, My Work

Taking Your Thoughts and Making a Difference

 

“We always attract into our lives whatever we think about most, believe in most strongly, expect on the deepest level, and imagine most vividly.” –Shakti Gawain

You will have more control of your life once you have control over your mind. Your mind is the strongest asset you have. Your success and failures and your happiness or unhappiness is all bought on by the thoughts you have and the actions you choose to take. Your thoughts have the power to create opportunities from obstacles instead of defeat. The choice is yours. Your thoughts are the only thing stopping you from making a difference in your life.

“Every thought is a cause and every condition is an effect. Change your thoughts and you change your destiny.”–Joseph Murphy

Changing your thoughts is easier said than done though, right?

The secret is to find your most positive and motivating thoughts and making them dominant over any other thought, feeling or insecurity you have. Regularly remind yourself of these positive thoughts. Be enthusiastic about them- it will make them more powerful and prominent. Positivity will begin to influence your behaviour and attitude which will begin to make a difference to your reality.

Think of your dream or life ambition in detail. Not as a daydream of where you will be ‘one day’, think about it as if it is your reality. Regularly remind yourself of this dream and how achievable it is with the right plan of action. This will influence your mind, your decisions, actions, and habits to begin to align and work towards this dream.

Visually represent your dream either physically through a vision board or scrap book or digitally through an application such as Pinterest. Represent your dream in a way that best resonates with you, just ensure it is something you can see often.

Create a positive space. Think about everything that motivates you, inspires you or makes you feel good about yourself. Whether it is photos of loved ones, motivational quotes, a particular colour, or something else. Make these things visual to keep your mind positive throughout the challenges of each day.

If any negative thoughts consistently enter your mind, write them down. It might seem counterproductive but it an important strategy to help let go. Don’t reread these notes, purely use them as a source of therapy to overcome them.

Fill a separate journal with positivity, express gratitude daily, make plans to achieve your dreams, and anything else your find inspirational and motivational. Revisit this journal regularly and use it as fuel for your success.

I mention this constantly in my blogs but here I go again because it is so important… Surround yourself with supportive people. Never let someone else’s negativity or insecurity get into your mind- their thoughts have nothing to do with your capabilities. You want your peers to listen to you, build you up and be genuinely happy for you.

Recognise that change is possible, and you deserve it. Never doubt yourself, always move forward.

Pay attention to your thoughts. Filter out the negative ones and keep the positive ones in the forefront of your mind. Regularly remind yourself of your life desires. Your dominant thoughts will become your reality.

“Imagining what you want as if it already exists opens the door to letting it happen.” –Shakti Gawain

 

Love Life Love YOUR Life

Ferne Eliz King

About Ferne

Ferne is globally recognised and called upon for quickly accelerating complex change to achieve business strategies.  Translating strategies to actionable plans, prioritisation of those actions, engagement from the right people, bringing business architecture to life or your life plan if individual and in many cases driving the change as a program director.  The bottom line is Ferne accelerates businesses or individuals to achieve outcomes and enabling that is her passion.

What's the consequence if you take no action?

“If you do the same thing today as yesterday, your tomorrow will be the same as today”.  Ferne Eliz King

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Curiosity + Inspiration = Options

Curiosity + Inspiration = Options

by | Apr 7, 2022 | My Life, My Work

Curiosity + Inspiration = Options

Start by imagining your future… dream big within the realm of reality. Look past material possessions of the nice house, the flash car, the 5hr workdays from an exotic island…

Instead think about

  • How would you feel?
  • Who would you help?
  • Be curious, what if this is something you can achieve?
  • Be inspired, how can you get there from today

Anything you want in life you can get. You just need options. Options start with curiosity and turn into a plan that the critical step is to then TAKE ACTION to ignite change in your life.

Over time there has been countless examples of people changing the world, or at least changing their lives by creating options.

Eva Ekeblad born in 1724 created options that were credited to preventing famine in Sweden. Potatoes were an oddity in Sweden at that time, but her curiosity inspired the experimentation that discovered an enhanced technique to create alcohol, a process to create flour from potatoes and a replacement for the use of arsenic in face powders.  She was the first woman received into the Royal Swedish Academy of Sciences (unfortunately several years later her status was downgraded because she was a female). She was curious, she had ambition to achieve something, she was inspired, and she created options to succeed – and she took action on those options.

Olivetti was a leading typewriter company that was established in 1908. There was an employee caught taking parts home and his co workers turned him in and urged CEO, Adriano Olivetti to fire him. Instead, Olivetti listened to the man and discovered he was inspired to develop a new machine and did not have the time to do so on the job and he had the resources to do at home. Instead of being fired, the employee was given time to explore his idea and eventually produced the Divisumma, the first ever electronic calculator. The Divisumma was a worldwide success for over two decades and its creator, who turned his creativity and inspiration into options, was promoted to technical director.

The future you want can be achieved. It is not a necessity for you to be an entrepreneur and go out on your own to get to your goal, as sited above. It simply involves figuring out what you want, sometimes a good starting point is thinking about what you don’t want in life and work backwards from there. If you are not the ‘entrepreneur type’, be curious about the company you work for, and consider the options you have to progress in your career or in the products and services offered. If you are the ‘entrepreneur type’ be curious about what the world needs and what you can offer.

Be curious… ask what if?

Create quality questions! dont focus on the answer yet

Be inspired… ask how?

Curiosity + Inspiration = Options

And options are infinite.

Love Life  Love YOUR Life

Ferne Eliz King

About Ferne

Ferne is globally recognised and called upon for quickly accelerating complex change to achieve business strategies.  Translating strategies to actionable plans, prioritisation of those actions, engagement from the right people, bringing business architecture to life or your life plan if individual and in many cases driving the change as a program director.  The bottom line is Ferne accelerates businesses or individuals to achieve outcomes and enabling that is her passion.

What's the consequence if you take no action?

“If you do the same thing today as yesterday, your tomorrow will be the same as today”.  Ferne Eliz King

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Align your life and business using Ikigai

Align your life and business using Ikigai

by | Apr 10, 2021 | My Life, My Work

Align your reason for being utilising Ikigai

The term Ikigai (pronounced “eye-ka-guy”) originates from Japan and can be traced as far back as the Heian period (794 to 1185). There is no direct English translation for the word, but it loosely translates to ‘your life purpose’ or ‘your reason for being.’

Japan has the highest life expectancy in the world and in some circles Ikigai is considered a contributing factor. Studies have discovered a link between early retirement and a shorter life expectancy. In Japan, an individual’s Ikigai will evolve over time so they will continue to have an Ikigai, or reason to live and be happy well beyond retirement age and into their senior years.

Ikigai is not exclusively related to work or money. In fact, only 31% of Japanese people consider work their Ikigai. Ikigai can be derived from family, friends, a dream, a positive outlook on life, or something more spiritual. Above all else Ikigai is a lifestyle that strives to balance the spiritual with the practical.

At the centre of the Venn diagram, where all five circles overlap, is where we find our true Ikigai or reason for living, there is an art and a science to working through this method.  I use this method in support of my “Ignite Change Program – Mastering Curiosity”.

For business, this balance can be found at the intersection where your passions and talents converge with the things that the world needs and is willing to pay for. With the right attitude, you can get paid doing what you love.

The Principles of Ikigai in business

  1. What you Love
    The first step is easier for some than others. Recognise your true passions in life. List all the things you love, the simple, the complicated and anything in between. In management discover what motivates your employees, and why your clients choose you.
  2. What the world needs
    Of everything left on your list, what does the world need? Where possible, avoid anything that has a higher supply than demand, but don’t be discouraged if you can’t. If you do anything well enough you will make a profit.
  3. What you can get paid for
    Realistically, how much profit do you need to cover your cost of living? How much to live comfortably? Work back from these figures when you are working out the price for your product or service. Consider how much time will be needed per sale, and how many sales you could manage per week. With the figure in mind, do you believe people will pay that price for your product or service?
  4. What you are good at
    I don’t entirely agree with the phrase ‘do what you love, and the money will follow’. Skills and knowledge are just as important to earn an income as a passion and motivation. Out of all the things you love, list the things you are also good at. If there is something you’d really love to do as a source of income that isn’t yet within your capabilities- you may simply need to work extra hard to strengthen your skills and knowledge.
  5. Health
    Health is holistic, environment, mind and body.  What do you need to do more of, less of, start and stop AND DO IT TODAY.  Do not underestimate the impact of good quality water in your life.  Given nearly 70% of our body is made up of water!  Yes good quality foods are important, but as important is good water.

Benefits

Studies have shown having a life purpose will positively impact on your health from having improved sleep, mental health and cognitive function to a longer life span. The secret is to be driven by this purpose, and not get caught up with the ‘daily grind’.

In business, purpose drives success. Without purpose businesses focus on the metrics instead of how they are helping the world. This causes employees to lose motivation and the culture to become pessimistic. A collective purpose or a shared goal and value system where everyone understands and cares about the ‘why’ is fundamental for success. A vision statement is not enough, as it is not meaningful to your employees and therefore not considered in daily practice. Employees should be given the chance to add input when developing your companies Ikigai so they all have a sense of purpose. When making decisions on any level is it necessary to check that the action aligns to the purpose.

For individuals in business having a purpose increases your focus, enjoyment, and productivity. You will have more confidence making you more likely to persevere during the challenging times.

Finding Happiness

Ikigai does not mean happiness. Someone who has found their Ikigai will usually have a positive outlook on life and will therefore find happiness in small joys each day instead of chasing the dream of a future idea of happiness. Having meaning in life will motivate you to take better care of yourself and be healthier for it and will increase productivity, motivation and efficiency in the workplace.

If you would like to know more about how Ikigai could be applied to your personal of professional life, book a call.

 

Ferne Eliz King

Live life, Love YOUR life

About Ferne

Ferne is globally recognised and called upon for quickly accelerating complex change to achieve business strategies.  Translating strategies to actionable plans, prioritisation of those actions, engagement from the right people, bringing business architecture to life or your life plan if individual and in many cases driving the change as a program director.  The bottom line is Ferne accelerates businesses or individuals to achieve outcomes and enabling that is her passion.

What's the consequence if you take no action?

“If you do the same thing today as yesterday, your tomorrow will be the same as today”.  Ferne Eliz King

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Generating revenue from your knowledge

Generating revenue from your knowledge

by | Mar 24, 2021 | My Life, My Work

Generating revenue from your knowledge

You can absolutely make a living by selling your knowledge! You might have considered or even tried this before. Some of you might have tried and given up because you weren’t getting the revenue you hoped. I am here to urge you to read this and TRY AGAIN!! Particularly post 2020 disruptions…

The advantage of selling your knowledge is you don’t need the start up or overhead costs you would to open a business leaving you with more profits. But there is an art and science to achieving your goals. The diagram below created by Matt Church and Peter Cook demonstrates the different avenues to deliver your expertise out to your clients.

The bottom line: The more opportunities you take to deliver your service, the more people you will reach and the more revenue you will generate. You can absolutely play to your strengths but avoid putting all your energy into the area/s within your comfort zone. You don’t need to be the best in each of these areas, in fact if you apply Pareto’s 80/20 principle, being 80% successful in each area takes 5 times less effort than being 100% successful, so don’t waste your precious time on perfection!

Equally important is the way that you get your brand out to the world. When I began to establish myself, most of my focus was put towards my presence on social media. After several months, I was becoming disheartened, I hadn’t had any bookings despite having an established a reputation as an experienced transformational change consultant business and personal.  I had a strong network and had been regularly updating and interacting on social media. Upon reflection I realised that a large portion of my potential clients were not regular users of social media. So, I began to consider other avenues to get my name out to these people. Upon research I discovered that a lot of my potential clients often kept up with corporate trends through short articles, videos, and audio clips. I now regularly devote time to join podcasts, shooting videos and writing blogs and articles with notable improvements. I know have stronger interest, better revenue and importantly I am spending more time on doing what I love vs chasing the lead.

If you have a vision to sell your skills or knowledge and you have a passion for what you do, don’t stop trying, I am confident you will succeed.  Use your valuable time carefully and don’t get caught up in perfecting everything… Make a start and keep moving forward! Planning is fundamental.

My Tips to Ignite the Change !

  1. Spend time on your goals and aspirations, don’t underestimate the power of alignment
  2. Conduct insights on your emotional strength, don’t just do the easy stuff
  3. Create curiosity, curiosity is at the heart of all change, look for ways to ignite curiosity
  4. Deep dive into the options you will be amazed at the options after your curiosity step, create a plan – that you are ok to amend along the way!
  5. Now… take action!  do one thing a day to take a step towards that tomorrow you envisage
  6. Create a daily routine where you journal, continue to reflect and perseverance

Imagine our world where more people and business achieved their imaginable future.   That is what I am passionate about, that is where I use my skill and experience to generate value and income for myself.

I will post a blog soon about utilisation of Ferne Eliz King branded Ignite Change program along with how I use Ikigai Alignment Wheel in that journey to Ignite Change.   I do a bit of each of the above expertise wheel, I’m not the best in market at each but I make a difference to some and that ticks the box for me, and it generates an income where I spend more time doing than chasing.

 

Love Life, Love YOUR Life

Ferne Eliz King

Let’s have a 30 min free conversation and leave this call with a greater degree of curiosity and options.  If you are an inspired individual or are in an inspiring business I’d love to listen to your journey, your challenges and your aspirations. I want to know about your superpower, everyone has one! I want to turn up your curiosity dial and create options that transition to actions OR rejig your current actions to achieve your tomorrow. I want you to leave this call with inspiration for your tomorrow.

About Ferne

Ferne is globally recognised and called upon for quickly accelerating complex change to achieve business strategies.  Translating strategies to actionable plans, prioritisation of those actions, engagement from the right people, bringing business architecture to life or your life plan if individual and in many cases driving the change as a program director.  The bottom line is Ferne accelerates businesses or individuals to achieve outcomes and enabling that is her passion.

What's the consequence if you take no action?

“If you do the same thing today as yesterday, your tomorrow will be the same as today”.  Ferne Eliz King

Book a Call

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Book a free 15 min call and see how Ferne can help you accelerate your aspirations for you or your business.

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